Best-selling author Deborah Tannen is University Professor and Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University. She has also been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princetown University.
This is a detailed analysis of the mire of crossed communication between men and women, by a US professor of linguistics. Behind all the cliches, the sexes really do speak different languages. You Just Don't Understand is full of pleasing examples that most of us can recognize: lost in a strange town, a woman's immediate instinct is to ask for directions, men will do almost anything to avoid asking for help. Women play 'do you like me?' while men play 'do you respect me?'. Men worry about persuading, women about offending; she needs rapport, he craves self-display. Misunderstandings can be destructive: women may find it easier to leave than to put up serious opposition; men may withdraw or fight rather than compromise. Tannen does not apportion blame - it's not a question of women being right and men wrong; it's how we are all brought up, something we absorb from society. Professor Tannen explains that both can retain their style, while learning to interpret and understand the way the other thinks. There is something very satisfying in having it all examined and laid out before us; it is useful as well as very entertaining. (Kirkus UK)