Subjectified

“Subjectified is delightfully nerdy, zeroing in on the details of how language informs our feelings and framings. The way Suzannah Weiss weaves personal and societal together is absolutely stunning. Thanks to her for sharing this with me, and the world.” Jessica Stoya, porn icon and sex columnist “Subjectified is a highly original, irreverent, and refreshing perspective on what it means to be a woman. I hugely enjoyed Suzannah Weiss’s debunking of the sacred cows of female sexuality (I use that term deliberately – you’ll see why). I guarantee you’ll never look at ‘the divine feminine’ the same way again.” Cindy Gallop, founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn “Subjectified takes you on a journey that’s equal parts playful, poetic, profound, silly, sexy, and full of titillating twists and turns. Weiss is a trailblazer, expanding minds and pushing boundaries with a refreshingly approachable warmth and tenderness.” Maitland Ward, actress and model “This is the inclusive feminist manifesto of destigmatization and personal power we need today. Weiss asserts a unified imagined future of possibility that can speak to anyone who has grown up in the last several decades. An important voice in the modern fight for liberation and human thriving.” Kiran Gandhi, musician, activist, and free-bleeding runner at the 2015 London Marathon “Authentic and moving. Challenging and uplifting. This book couldn’t be more relevant to the battleground that is women’s bodies.” Victoria Bateman, University of Cambridge, author of Naked Feminism: Breaking the Cult of Female Modesty “Weiss is one of the best sex writers out there. Her voice is one that lifts and carries you. This book has the power to change the way we think of ourselves as women, as people – to know our power and agency when we so often have been left wanting.” Gigi Engle, psychosexual therapist and author of All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life “Subjectified is a book that will make you think long and hard about sex and the way we talk about it. Weiss shows how a simple sentence flip or reframe can dramatically change the way we think about ourselves and our partners, as well as what it means to be sexually free. Readers stand to become informed and empowered ‘subjects’ of desire.” Justin J. Lehmiller, host of the ‘Sex and Psychology Podcast’ and author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life “Taking us on a journey of sexual liberation, Subjectified is a deep dive into what it means to be objectified and how we can talk, think, and action our way into becoming the subject of our own lives.” Erika Lust, indie erotic filmmaker and author of Good Porn: A Woman’s Guide “Weiss perfectly breaks down the dehumanizing split between subject and object, detailing the myriad ways in which the enforced position of ‘object’ is profoundly destructive for women. Her deep dive into the consequences of this process is both illuminating and liberating.” Nina Menkes, director of Brainwashed: Sex-Camera-Power “Subjectified will make you think – about the words we use to describe women, sex, and men. More than that, it will inspire readers to consider their role in the world and how they want to create their own sexual narrative and life journey. Using cultural critique, linguistic analysis, surprising facts from science, and her own journey as both a woman and a sex writer, Suzannah Weiss invites readers into her world so that they can choose if they want to change their own. I plan to recommend this book to students and clients for years to come. I am certain that all will have ‘Aha!’ moments and be inspired to make changes to the way they approach the world of sex.” Laurie Mintz, University of Florida, author of Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters – and How to Get it “Subjectified is a deeply heartfelt, thought provoking, and gripping account of Suzannah Weiss’s personal journey toward empowerment in a world that still frequently treats women as objects. It is a gift to any woman who wants to get in touch with her own true north and make choices that honor her body, mind, and feelings, across each and every part of her life.” Tiffany Pham, founder of Mogul and author of You Are a Mogul: How to Do the Impossible, Do It Yourself, and Do It Now “Suzannah Weiss rediscovers sex-positivity as she returns our agency, worth, and subjectivity to ourselves, our own voice and vision, our ‘I.’ This radical script-flipping of women’s selfhood sees Suzannah dancing with language and gifting us the wonderful, powerful identity ‘subject of desire.’” Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibes and author of Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot! “What Suzannah Weiss has achieved in Subjectified is remarkable. In a marketplace packed with ‘pop feminism’ books she has written something fresh, absorbing, and important. This is persuasive, groundbreaking material.” Emma Rees, University of Chester, author of The Vagina: A Literary and Cultural History “Subjectified is a super thoughtful, heartfelt, generous story that dives into many important and interesting topics – such as menstrual blood, dick pics, the politics of pubes, sex work as play, behind the nipples, easy money, sex and divinity, body sizes, and more – all in one nicely written book. Suzannah Weiss asks, and answers, many questions about our bodies and ourselves, which many women ponder – if they dare.” Annie Sprinkle, sexecologist and author of Assuming the Ecosexual Position: The Earth as Lover