Born and raised in Buffalo, NY (Go Bills!), Jennifer Sanfilippo, MBA, enjoyed a robust career as a trusted executive advisor and political strategist. She brought her thoughtful, strategic sensibilities first to the public sector, advising members of Congress, governors, mayors and senior staffers at the federal, state and local levels. Mid-career, she transitioned to the private sector, advising senior executives at several financial institutions in New York State. Since Jim's passing, Jennifer has turned her attention to providing support and counsel to those facing major life transitions, and facilitating end-of-life conversations. She is the delighted mother of two magnificent young men, and lives in comfortable co-dependence with her three cats in Rochester, NY.Visit Jennifer's website at www.jennifer-sanfilippo.com for more information and links to resources on end-of-life care, leukemia and other related areas of interest.
"This book invites us to develop the cognitive awareness and emotional muscle needed to find meaning, dignity, and love in facing cancer treatment. Jennifer writes with a rare kind of transparency and honesty while maintaining a sense of humor in unspeakable circumstances. Her words offer us as both workers in, and consumers of, Healthcare, a bittersweet gift. They illuminate the system's tendency towards a lack of capacity to keep the experience of the patient and their family in mind in an empathic way. Procedure trumps process. Mental health and well-being are sacrificed. Jennifer's courage to approach the issue of continuing treatment at the potential cost to quality of life highlights our system's lack of training in facing end of life dilemmas. Her story helps us understand the undeniable need for social support and presence from each provider along the way, a 'slowing down' so to speak, in decision-making around sometimes violent medical interventions. May this be a valuable tool for all those who are in practice and in training to work in healthcare. Christine G. Fitzstevens, LCSW-R, CGP, AGPA/Fellow Having worked at an academic medical center for over 20 years, many friends and families share their journeys navigating diagnoses, procedures, and hospital stays. Having had my own family members diagnosed with cancer and myriad other life altering diseases, I too have had joys and sorrows which bump up against the medical world feeling like I am trapped in a pinball machine. Jennifer's book is the first I have read that puts a chapter of her life, in which she received her before and after words - ""Jim has cancer"" - into perspective. How do we say goodbye while we are fighting like hell to stay on? Jennifer also offers a personal narrative history that lends a view into marriage, parenting, self-doubt, compassion and forgiveness - topics that shape our every day. Her stories tie a bow around our own lived experiences to remind us time is finite. We must live each day knowing we make choices that define our here and now relationships with those we love, while acknowledging for some, yesterdays and today may be all the time we have. Choose well. Catherine Cerulli, J.D., Ph.D."