Lesbian Ex-Lovers examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. This eye-opening look into the minds and hearts of women offers personal insight into the possibilities for and potential pitfalls of lesbian ex-lover relations. This book contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses of the frequency and significance of ex-lovers at different stages in a relationship. Topics of interest in this study include: the roles ex-lovers play in our lives; ex-lovers as contexts for change and development; how we continue to be influenced by ex-lovers; letting go and moving on; ex-lovers as current friends and family; themes of betrayal and loss of faith; reconstructing friendships and community; the mystique of the ex-lover; friend/family connections among lesbian ex-lovers; Lesbian Ex-Lovers is the only book in print that explores how a lesbian's ex-lovers impact her subsequent romances and lifestyle. This special collection adds a new dynamic to the current literature for and about the lesbian community.
By:
Esther D Rothblum,
Jacqueline Weinstock
Imprint: Routledge
Country of Publication: United States
Dimensions:
Height: 210mm,
Width: 148mm,
Spine: 17mm
Weight: 500g
ISBN: 9781560232834
ISBN 10: 1560232838
Pages: 268
Publication Date: 12 November 2004
Audience:
General/trade
,
ELT Advanced
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Active
INTRODUCTION Lesbian Ex-Lover Relationships: Under-Estimated, Under-Theorized and Under-Valued? (Jacqueline S. Weinstock) THE CHANGER AND THE CHANGED: EX-LOVERS AS CONTEXTS FOR DEVELOPMENT To All the Girls I Left Before (Alison Bechdel) Tenth Anniversary (Jill Stranger) Coming Out of My Closet (Barbara Brown) In My Dream: My Ex-Lovers’ Unconventional Convention (Pat Pomerleau Chávez) These Most Difficult Tasks (Karen Heise) Passion (Marilyn Lee) MOVING COSTS: CHALLENGES OF (RE)DEFINING OUR RELATIONSHIPS AND DEALING WITH UNFINISHED BUSINESS Still the One (Susan McCully) Loading Up the U-Haul: Traveling the Spaces Between Friends and Lovers (Tammie M. Kennedy) Daring to Take the Risk (Myra Betschild and Adrienne Fortanier) Family Affairs (L. J. Tess Tessier) Highly Favored Ex (Gina Perille) For Emily, Many Years Too Late/Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her (Renny Christopher) TOO MUCH TSORAS? THE HIGH COSTS OF MAINTAINING TIES Truth, Dreams and the Li(v)es Between (Marilyn Lee) Temporary Temptation (Cecilia Stanton) Lost Love (Renny Christopher) Neurotic Love Letters (tatiana de la tierra) Goodbye to My Lover (Michelle Gibson) Leaving Liza (Jane Futcher) Lesbian Ex-Lovers by the Numbers: A Reflective but Not Contemplative Love Poem of Sorts (Dr. Dyke) NOT LOVERS BUT NOT JUST FRIENDS: RECONSTRUCTING FAMILIES, FRIENDSHIPS, AND COMMUNITIES PERSONAL STORIES I’m Not Lisa (Kate Brown) The House on Transcript Avenue (Bernadette Barton) The Politics of Potlucks (Barbara Esrig) Family Doggerel (Becky Thacker) The Visit (Marilyn Lee) Irritating and Constricting/Elating and ElasticBeing Ex as a Lesbian (Fe Day) THEORETICAL REFLECTIONS Consummated Friends and Ex-Wives: Two Types of Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Tabitha Eden) When Three’s a Crowd: Ex-Lovers and Lesbian Families in 2 Girls in Love (Kelly McWilliam) Making the Transition: Understanding the Longevity of Lesbian Relationships (Susan B. Fitzgerald) Lesbian FLEX-ibility: Friend and/or Family Connections Among Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Jacqueline S. Weinstock) AFTERWORD The Migration of the Mythic Lesbian (Marny Hall) Index
Esther D Rothblum, Jacqueline Weinstock
Reviews for Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships
"""Very Interesting And Compelling...The stories and poems speak to great resilience, friendship, and strength among women while also addressing why some relationships should not, and cannot be mended."""
