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Raising Securely Attached Kids

Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

Eli Harwood

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Sasquatch Books
03 December 2024
Series: Attachment Nerd
Create a secure emotional bond with your children-for a close, fulfilling parent-child relationship that lasts a lifetime.

Therapist and wildly popular attachment research expert Eli Harwood (@attachmentnerd) illuminates attachment theory as foundational to the only parenting approach proven to have a lasting impact.

Create a lifetime of connection with your children.

Therapist and wildly popular attachment research expert Eli Harwood (a.k.a. Attachment Nerd) illuminates attachment theory as foundational to the only parenting approach proven to have a lasting impact.

How do you raise kids who are confident, capable, and caring?

The first ingredient is a secure and close relationship-key to helping them self-regulate and thrive later in life. When children feel seen, heard, and supported, all other parenting tips and tricks start to work.

Groundbreaking author Eli Harwood makes attachment theory (the science that explores the innate human need to bond with other humans) accessible and actionable in how it can help our children learn and grow into compassionate, warm adults.

For anyone looking to build a better life for their kids, no matter what you went through growing up yourself, these simple, real-life strategies will help you-

Help you create a secure attachment relationship with your kids by choosing connection over control

Prompt reflection on attachment patterns you developed in childhood and why you respond in certain ways during emotional moments with your children

Help you resolve past attachment traumas so you can gain effective skills to offer calm, connected, and secure base

Provide scripts and practical tools to build and reinforce a strong foundation of trust

Encourage you to release the reins of influence as their independence grows

Hopeful and inspiring, this essential evidence-based guide will show parents across different ages and stages everywhere that they are not alone in the questions and concerns they may have about their children's development. Though there have been countless studies on how attachment styles affect our romantic relationships, Raising Securely Attached Kids reframes the subject for cultivating a strong relationship between parent and child to bring transformative change to your relationships of all stripes.
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Imprint:   Sasquatch Books
Country of Publication:   United States
Dimensions:   Height: 202mm,  Width: 139mm,  Spine: 19mm
Weight:   312g
ISBN:   9781632175465
ISBN 10:   1632175460
Series:   Attachment Nerd
Pages:   288
Publication Date:  
Audience:   General/trade ,  ELT Advanced
Format:   Paperback
Publisher's Status:   Active
CONTENTS Introduction Chapter 1: The Most Important Lesson Author Eli Harwood sets the stage for understanding attachment in the parenting context and the mindsets necessary for a parent to cultivate a secure relationship, and how children learn whether or not they can rely on us for connection and support.    Chapter 2: Connection is the Most Powerful Form of Influence This chapter explores the emotional side of parenting and the importance of those challenging moments when our kids are submerged deep into their feelings.   Chapter 3: They Can Feel What You Don’t Heal  This chapter focuses on the ways that our unresolved traumas from the past and our dysfunctional relationships in the present affect our children and how we can heal them in order not to pass them down to our kids.   Chapter 4: Feelings are for Feeling In a world full of so much misconception regarding emotional health, this chapter helps you build your child's emotional intelligence through mythbusting current mindsets about what it means to be emotionally healthy.  Chapter 5: Structure is Nurture's Best Friend This chapter discusses the power of playful connection and enthusiastic delight, and empowers parents to cultivate positive interactions and explores dominance vs. connection. Chapter 6: Secure Conflict This chapter gets into the nitty gritty of conflict with our children and the different ways it shows up in them and us and how to take a discovery mindset instead of a fear mindset with conflict. Chapter 7: Connection as Protection This chapter focuses on navigating outside sources of potential harm and struggle with our children. It will help parents learn how to offer protection without sliding into fear mongering or controlling responses.   Chapter 8: The Self-Confidence Recipe A child can only become confident in their self if they are first able to be confident in the care of others. This chapter guides parents into how to help kids feel securely adored, understood, and supported which internalizes into positive narratives about themselves. Chapter 9: The Tricky Topics This chapter dives into the terrain of the tricky conversations that every child needs their parents to have with them. It breaks down conversation by conversation the important things for parents to be aware of as they navigate these dialogues and how to effectively hear and be heard.   Chapter 10: Letting Go *is* Staying Close This chapter leans into the very complex and emotional process of our children building autonomy and independence. It addresses the emotional ways we come to these moments and how to offer our children the best possible launchpad to move into new stages of independence. Appendix Acknowledgments References Index

ELI HARWOOD is a licensed therapist who lives in Colorado with her husband, Trevor, and their three children. Eli has been nerding out on attachment research for the past two decades and is on a mission to help make the world a better place, one relationship at a time. She continues this mission in her clinical work, her writing, and running her mouth about attachment on social media. When she isn't working to make the world a more secure place, she is playing dress-up with her kids, obsessing about her sourdough starter, and reminiscing about that one time she won a set of globes as a Price is Right contestant. Visit her at AttachmentNerd.com.

Reviews for Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

“Eli Harwood brings infectious-fun energy, vulnerability, and fresh perspectives without shaming or blaming. Not only is Raising Securely Attached Kids a practical and actionable guide, it’s grounded in science and entertaining to read. There is truly nothing that matters more to me in my life than building secure relationships with my children and loved ones.” —Hilary Swank, actress, storyteller, mom of twins   “Raising Securely Attached Kids is a comprehensive roadmap for parents who want to raise securely attached, emotionally healthy children. Eli Harwood breaks down the science of attachment to offer practical insights for cultivating parent-child relationships based on safety, connection, and collaboration. A parenting must-read.”  —Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions   “Eli uses her charm, humor, and compelling storytelling ability to weave together a narrative that will guide parents toward a deep and transformative relationship with their children. Eli has a special gift to take complex research and psychological concepts and make them accessible to her audience, and that is woven through each page of this book. This is a must-read for any parent looking to cultivate a secure attachment with a child at any age.” —Tammy Schamuhn, author of The Parenting Handbook and cofounder of the Institute of Child Psychology   “Insightful, profound, poignant. Raising Securely Attached Kids is a must-read for parents committed to building a secure foundation that lasts a lifetime. This book seamlessly translates cutting-edge research into practical wisdom, providing the guide every parent needs. Eli Harwood brings an outstanding fusion of knowledge and heart to the world of parenting.” —Dr. Galit Atlas, author of Emotional Inheritance and faculty member at NYU Postdoctoral Program for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis   “If there’s one thing a divorcing parent wishes for as their marital status changes, it’s a continued healthy attachment with their children. As a certified divorce and coparenting specialist, I have long since turned to Harwood’s work for inspiration, motivation, and the best tips for fostering a healthy, secure attachment with our children. This book is the delicious icing on the cake for all she’s put into the world so far, and a gift to those of us working hard to give our children a childhood they can be proud of one day.” —Michelle Dempsey-Multack, founder of Moms Moving On   “You can’t put a roof on a house without first laying a sturdy foundation and building a frame. There are many parenting advisors offering quick tips on shaping your child’s behavior, but much of this advice falls short and leads to parenting feeling like a game of whack-a-mole, with one challenge replacing another. Raising Securely Attached Kids will guide you in creating the secure attachment relationship with your child that will become the foundation upon which healthy families can be built. This book is the parenting guide we all need.” —Rachel Samson, clinical psychologist and @AustralianPsychologist


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